Episode 9: Saying Yes to YOU
Episode 09 – Saying YES to YOU
You Are Important
Hey, there! Thanks so much for joining me on this episode of the Writer Insider!
Today, I want to address one of the most common comments – usually not a question. It’s usually a comment, like a definitive statement I hear from people when I talk about YOU or saying YES to you. The number one comment I read or hear from people is,” I don’t have the time in my life – there’s just no more time for me, if I want to do all this other stuff.”
So in this episode, I’m going to help you find you!
How do you spend the most time in your day? Because the things you are spending the most time doing, may or may not be the best use of your time, and probably is taking YOU time away from you.
Here’s My Simple Ways of Finding More YOU Time:
Instead of Social Media, journal, write, read.
Instead of house chores, take a walk.
Delegate. [isn’t that what children are for? 😉 LOL]
If it doesn’t warm my heart, I don’t do.
You time is about finding more time for YOU and less time on stuff that is depriving you of YOU. We all need time throughout the day to recharge, reset, and find balance again – it’s safe to say if you don’t find balance and YOU time, you will be cranky, and often in a worn out and depressive state.
I choose to journal or write every day, even if it’s only 5 minutes. I need that time for me. it is what fuels my heart. Besides, I find social media to be a huge time suck and a lot of it is negative, so I choose to say YES to things that make me feel good inside.
Yes, chores and life expectations need to happen, especially if you’re a single parent. I get you – I have three and balancing it all is a challenge. Finding YOU time is difficult for me throughout the week. Sometimes, my time comes at 11 pm; not ideal, but it is what I can do after the kids are taken care of and the chores are completed. I have learned over the years my kitchen can be a mess and the floors not shining before going to bed.
I’ve also learned over the years the beauty of delegation – delegating to my children. They are old enough to take on responsibilities and help me out – and I’ve found they actually don’t mind helping (most of the time), they are pre-teens and teenagers so…
Meditating daily has been a HUGE life saver. Hey…don’t knock it until you try it. I used to be the person laughing and saying I can’t do it, or that’s not for me.
Meditation takes practice and time. I started with 5 minutes. I am a person who can not focus and sit ideally. So 5 minutes felt like an eternity. I eventually worked up to 20 mins. And… OH MY GOSH! What a difference meditating daily has done for me. I get it might not be for you, and that’s cool.
Believe in the process of saying YES to YOU…The ultimate way I find ME time is: if it doesn’t warm my heart, I don’t do.
I truly believe that one shouldn’t do things that doesn’t feel good to the soul. Sometimes this can be difficult, I get it, but overall, I believe there is always options and ways to feed the heart with warmth.
Trust. Believe. Prepare.
I often say I trust and believe in the “Universe.” The Universe has my back, my side and all parts of me and I need to prepare for what is about to happen, even when I have set-backs. I allow myself that moment or sometimes a day of self-pity and wallow in ‘why me’ land until the voice inside is louder and has had enough, “YOU CAN DO IT! Get your booty up and do it again.”
The inner Voice
I believe our inner voice knows best – best how to say YES to you, and NO to all the other stuff in life.
I surrender to the voice, pick my booty up and keep pushing forward—through the muck, darkness and set-backs, because I know the Universe has a plan and that plan does not involve sitting on the couch with a bag of BBQ chips, a Root Beer and a series of sappy movies. But hey…sometimes we need to do just that, for saying YES to you.
Believe. Choose. Move.
There is no one-size-fits-all answer to how to say YES to YOU.
When I say YES to me, it’s about keeping myself grounded, sane and moving forward – it’s not being selfish, it’s being smart. Every. Person. Must. Do. Something. For. Self. If you don’t, you will end up being burned out, lonely, cranky…the list of negatives is endless.
So, if I’m choosing YES then I focus on two aspects of my life that mean a crap ton of happiness: writing and exercise (health).
I choose writing. I write and write. When I knock off a 1st draft, I celebrate. It’s a celebration-worthy exercise, after all, because it represents accomplishing something that 99% of the human population will never accomplish. Sure, a lot of your friends and family will say things like, “I’ve been meaning to write a book, I just can’t find the time.”
You can feel good – the knowledge you possess in that they have no idea what actually writing a book takes. So celebrating a 1st draft is a HUGE feat!
But, after the celebration, the real work begins. I’ll talk about the real work in a totally separate podcast and blog post, because what happens after the first draft requires it’s own space.
Besides choosing YES to writing, I choose YES to my health. I know this sounds easy to say, implementing is way harder.
For me, I spent four months in bed when one health crisis after another plagued my life. I went from the top of my health to the bottom – laying in bed unable to do much as my body healed.
The journey of saying YES to myself again was difficult. I’m not about to say it was easy…so much the opposite. My body had changed so much, I had to fight twice as much to get even a little of the results I had previously seen. So yeah, I understand the struggle of saying YES to you, to your health…but, I truly believe in saying YES to you – to your health.
Do you have a list of goals or dreams? I suggest if you do not, you should. Take a moment and think of 3 short-term goals and 3 long-term goals.
The fun thing about goals, if we actually keep them and look back to them often, we will see just how far we have come, which goals we met or changed and what we are still working toward, if the goal (s) are still applicable within the context of our current life.
By having goals you are saying YES to YOU!
Are you saying YES to YOU? Let me know in the comments or shoot me an email, firstname.lastname@example.org
And that’s how I do it – how I say YES to ME!
Again, there are no one-size-fits-all answers. And there are absolutely no short cuts. Everyone needs to find their own path on how to say YES to YOU. Just rest assured that no matter which path you ultimately stumble upon, it’s going to take a lot of determination and work.
Just remember, you’re just one word away…
The Writer Insider produced by Susan Kiley and edited by, David L. White.